What the Bible Says About Divorce and Remarriage


Is Any Divorce Acceptable?

In a general sense, God allows only three reasons for the dissolution of a marriage.
  • The first reason is obvious—death of one of the individuals in the marriage. See Romans chapter 7, verse 2 (Romans 7:2).
  • The second reason is adultery or immorality on the part of one of the individuals (Matthew 5:31,32 19:9, and so forth).
  • The third reason appears in First Corinthians 7:12-16. (Note that when Paul wrote “I say, not the Lord” in that passage, he did not say that this was not from God, but rather that Jesus had never addressed this topic Himself.) Here Paul states that “if the unbeliever departs” the Christian is not “under bondage.” The same concept is used again in verse 39 where the clear context of being “under bondage” was that you could not remarry. As a rule of hermeneutics, you allow the author to define the terms by what is stated in other areas of the same document. This is the author’s intended meaning. Thus, a Christian is not bound to their marriage if the unbeliever leaves them.
In each of these cases, it seems that God is trying to protect the innocent party that is left to live their life after the marriage ends. Please understand that this is a brief treatment of this subject.
Now let’s look at a situation that does not include one of these “acceptable” divorces. Many people do believe that remarriage after such a divorce constitutes continuous adultery that cannot be repented of (if you remain in the marriage). They would say that these people should divorce again and either be reunited to their original spouse or remain single. They would cite Romans 7:3 as a proof of this position. It is a possible position to take. (Still, remarriage to the same spouse after being married to someone else in between violates Deuteronomy 24:4.)
It is important to note that Romans 7:3 was not designed by Paul to be the “end all” statement of divorce and remarriage, it was actually using marriage in general to illustrate a point about the Law. Obviously God did provide for marriage to end in two other ways besides death. This is not to say that God is soft on divorce. Jesus said that it was only because of our “hardness of heart” that God allowed divorce (Matthew 19:8 and others). Ezra chapters 9 and 10 are sometimes used to support getting a divorce to obey God. However, the reason for divorce in these chapters was to keep the Jewish people pure for the Messiah to come through their lineage. (They had intermarried with those other than Jews, which was in direct violation of God’s commandment to them.) The situation was very different from our situation today. Malachi 2:16 says that God hates divorce, and we think everyone knows that divorce is wrong before God.

How About Remarriage?

The real issue that people wonder about is remarriage. Although God has not given specific information regarding the acceptability of remarriage, we can give you some things to think about in this area. Obviously, based on 2 Corinthians 5:17, if someone has had a failed marriage, and later got right with God, “all things are done away with”—you get a clean slate as though you had not been divorced. There are certain passages like Romans 8:28 that show that God can use bad stuff that happened in our life to do good stuff. The “prodigal son” of Luke chapter 15 certainly shows someone who walked away from all that was good, messed up his life, and then repented and came back. While there were repercussions for his failures, he was still reinstated as a son. In the book of Joel, a terrible swarm of locusts had devastated the land as a judgment brought on them for their sin. But God then promised that He would “give back the years that the locusts have eaten.”

Summing Things Up

So, how do we summarize? If both partners had a divorce for one of the three “acceptable” reasons, they are free to remarry. If not, things become less clear. We have always believed that God is the God of the future. While people certainly need to take responsibility for what they have done wrong and the consequences that a divorce brought against them, we have to believe that true repentance can right such a wrong before God. It is hard to believe that people are useless to God and unacceptable to Him because of this past failure. Further, it just does not seem consistent with what we read in the Bible about God. However, we must emphasize that this is our opinion. Each person must decide this for themselves based on what the Bible says.

8 comments:

  1. Divorce and remarriage are becoming more and more common and accepted in the current society. Marriage can easily be seen only as an agreement that can be cancelled any time. People may think that if problems arise, "we can always get a divorce if this does not work out." The doorway to getting a divorce can be held open all the time, so people do not take proper care of their marriage. People do not invest fully in their marriage because divorce is seen as an alternative.
    How can this be fixed? There is no other alternative than to start committing to the relationship. Do not take your spouse for granted, but reserve time for your spouse and give him/her the same attention you pay to other things; actually, your spouse should be the most important thing after God. If we have this kind of a right order of importance, the relationship will not fade completely.
    We must also note that marriage is really a lifelong relationship that will end when we die. If we do not understand this, our motivation to build up our marriage is not right:

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  2. Hello,
    Divorce is the termination of a marital union, the canceling and/or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country and/or state.probate lawyers

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  3. Jesus did not approve of divorce, not even in the event of adultery. The Greek word in that text translated as adultery by some Christian denominations is not valid. There is a separate word for adultery in Greek,and it wasn't used here. Even some Christian pastors have bought into this lie and will surely be surprised on the last day. It's the same error that has given birth to homosexuality unions now. Wait for it, bestiality and others are on the way. A lot of popular translations of the Bible are wrong in certain areas. I recommend the Jerusalem Bible.

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    1. Typical Catholic/catechism approach. The same catechism endorses Mary as a mediator. That is called Idolatry, something YHWH Elohim hates.

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    2. What option does a wife have that's had to divorce because of life threatening abuse to herself and her children? So many articles address adultery and if a spouse is unbelieving, but what if your spouse tried to take your life? He tried to be the death that parts us. I feel like conservative circles have missed this niche of divorced Christians that stayed in their marriages until it almost took their lives. I know I did.

      Most conservative articles say I can separate, divorce if necessary but remain single. I've read the scriptures. I know what they say and I will follow them, however I begin to understand why so many sad and lonely women return to an abusive spouse if they have no hope of any other marriage on this earth. It's like being victimized twice.

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    3. If you are spiritually strong and receive the word of knowledge from God you will understand that 're marrying after a divorce is wrong. This is a demonic world and the devil is trying to blind the ones who proclaim to be strong we are living in the days of prophecy. Mark 10:10,"When they were in the house again the disciples asked Jesus about this He answered; "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. AND IF SHE DIVORCES HER HUSBAND AND MARRIES ANOTHER MAN, SHE COMMITS ADULTERY ". These are Jesus' words and if people cannot comprehend the word they need to ask God for wisdom

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  4. My Situation as a beleiver mirrors many on here.My Faith does allow Divorce, and no re-Marriage. But there is no clean view in certain cases.If a Woman is married to an abusive Spouse, (Drugs, etc) and the Husband was a beleiver when they married. How then can he still be a believer when he is an Unrepetant sinner? I realize he can Repent like we have to do but in the meantime The Wife wants out and she has to divorce the abuseve spouse . But never Remarry another non abusive man, and must re submit to the former Abuser?

    Same when a woman starts doing ungdly things or being abusive to her husband refusing him sexual or intamate contact so he must remain celibate until he dies? I can see this: If either Man or woman refuses to be a wife or husband to their spouse for reasons they choose. Then unlesss, there is no way those victim husband or wife who does these things things should not be allowed to hold a stranglehoold on Spouses who no longer care or Love them
    Want to be around the abusers

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